Here are some questions to think about before you take your online romance into the real world.
1. Intro
2. The offline meeting
Who suggested meeting offline? If it was your idea, you’re good to go. If it was your partner, proceed with caution.
2. The online discussion
Who initiated the online discussion? Did you contact them or did they contact you? Be slightly more wary of someone who reached out to you first.
3. The messages
Who sends more messages? A healthy interaction is roughly 50/50, so check your past communications and see who is sending more messages. Keep in mind that some people are more prolific writers.
4. Dating Profile
Do your profiles match? Re-read your prospective date’s profile and double check that they’re looking for the same kind of relationship and partner.
5. The venue
Where is the proposed venue, and who proposed it? Is it close to your house or your potential partner’s? Close to your home is good, but too close might be a red flag, especially if you were not the one to propose it. UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES DO NOT BRING SOMEONE YOU DON’T KNOW TO YOUR HOUSE, AND DO NOT MEET AT THEIR HOUSE. Come on people, this is just common sense.
6. The Idea
What initiated the offline idea? Review your messages and check specifically what made one of you suggest an offline date. One red flag may be if one of you suggests ending communication and the other counters with suggesting an offline meeting.
7. Your comfort level
What’s your comfort level with this person? Honestly, this is the factor that makes a difference. Trust your instincts and feelings about this person, and make sure you’re taking everything into consideration. Be deliberate in your decision to meet someone in real life.
8. The Bottom Line
Are you sensing a theme here? Pay attention to what you’re thinking and feeling, and use common sense. If you’re feeling hesitant and are, for example, reading blogs for advice on the matter, perhaps you’re not as certain as you think. If you do decide you’re ready to get together with someone you met online, don’t take unnecessary risks with your physical or emotional safety. It’s wonderful to follow your heart, but be sure to keep your head. Good luck, and enjoy the adventure!